'They need their 25-year-old to subsidize their lifestyle': Mom charges son $600 in rent, retaliates when he wants to move out

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    0₂2 r/AmltheAsshole u/Johnnyb186 - 16h AITA for telling my mom I will move out vs paying $600 a month rent?
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    I'm 25 years old, was paying $60 a week rent for a few years. I recently started a new temp job that pays pretty decent, and they decided to keep me with the company last week. This morning my mom texted me to say "Rent starts up again, $150 a week".
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    I just told her I will move out. I already pay for my own meals, I only have my small bedroom to call my own in their house. I can rent a studio apartment 3 or 4 times the size of my room for a few hundred more, or could rent a room with friends for less than my mom is trying to charge me. It would be one thing if they cooked and cleaned for me every day and I was raking up their bills but I do my own thing, pay my own bills, I never really even cross paths with my parents besides when I am gett
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    My moms definitely I that I said that, I can tell. But I'm also upset the person who birthed me is trying to get me to pay what I would pay a landlord for rent just to sleep in her house. Even 100 a week I would have been more inclined to be okay with, but 600 a month just to be able to sleep at my parents house seems a little high. If I am paying $600 a month I think I would deserve my own spaces around the house also as I would with a landlord, it seems having a landlord would be a better deal
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    consolelog_a11y. 15h But I'm also upset the person who birthed me is trying to get me to pay what I would pay a landlord for rent just to sleep in her house. Y'know, parents have bills and utilities to pay, also. You're only entitled to free room and board until you're a legal adult. If I am paying $600 a month I think I would deserve my own spaces around the house also as I would with a landlord Lol, if you can swing it for $600 go for it. Where I come from, $600/month would get you a shared be
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    o Johnnyb186 OP. 15h Yeah if it were a matter of making ends meet I wouldn't have any issue, my dad has a credit card in my name that he can use whenever he needs to catch up on something and doesn't have the money. Dad is the breadwinner in our house, my mom pays for vacations and a couple utilities but my dad pays for the mortgage, groceries and most of the bills. Funny part is he doesn't want rent from me, it's my mom who wants it. It's part of why I am especially not keen on the idea. If the
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    Shakeit126 15h ● Why does your dad have a cc with your name on it? I'd cancel the card. If you move out, what if mom gets a hold of that card since she won't be getting rent from you? I can't see why they have one in your name.
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    Johnnyb186 OP • 15h I added my dad as an auth user to one of my cards for emergencies in case he's short on bills or needs to stop at a store and doesn't have money. He doesn't really use it much but good point for once I move out.
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    oceansapart333. 14h Partassipant [3] Why wouldn't they use the money your mom is spending on vacations?
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    frothyundergarments • 14h Partassipant [1] Because they're bad with money and need their 25 year old to subsidize their lifestyle.
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    good_enuffs • 14h Or they don't want a 25 year old living with them and this is an easy way to give them the idea to move out.
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    Skynet MCP 16h Colo-rectal Surgeon [38] NTA - you mom has no right to be mad at you for moving out. However, quit the "person who birthed me" nonsense, $600 is too much but $400 is fine for mothers? Who came up with that arbitrary line?
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    o OP. 16h Yeah that's fair, I think it's my high school English teacher in the back of my head telling me not to use the word "mom" again when I used it in the previous sentence haha Johnnyb186
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    o AdIntrepid4978 • 15h Enthusiast [7] INFO: where do you live? What's the cost of living? Have you looked at the rental market recently? $600 for a studio, what about utilities, internet, renter's insurance?? Will you have to use a laundromat? Have you calculated that cost into your monthly budget. You should sit down and calculate these numbers. Better yet, sit down with your mom, look at comparables and calculate all the additional costs you weren't paying at $60 a week. Also, do you have furn
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    DrFishTaco • 15h Professor Emeritass [73] NAH - "Rent starts up again..." Sounds like she was giving you a free ride for a bit and then gave you a week to celebrate the job before informing you it was time to start adulting again. She seems like a great mom You have no obligation to live with your parents Her being upset may just be because you're leaving and that can be hard on parents
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    ReviewOk929 • 15h Colo-rectal Surgeon [33] NAH 1. Its their house and you're 25, if she wants to charge you rent she can 2. You're 25 and you should absolutely have the right to a) say you want to move out at that price and b) actually move out....
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    JupiterSWarrior. 15h Colo-rectal Surgeon [38] NAH She can charge you rent. You can either accept it or move out. There's really nothing nefarious going on.
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    Foot2000 15h Jokes on you, they want you to move out

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